Reduce Stress by Being Assertive
While teaching thousands of women around the country, I have found most have this in common: We don’t go after what we want. We have a lot of reasons for this but the results are the same—frustration, dissatisfaction, and stress! Let’s talk about little things first....
Conflict Management: Bring Down Defenses
Ideally, we want to put the other person at ease so he or she becomes less defensive. The more defensive she is, the more difficult the conversation will be. Your body language can help you to come across as less of a threat. You need to show that you are open to what...
Get Your Stress Relief ON!
You have a lot of stress coming at you from all angles. Do you find yourself yelling at the other drivers, even if it is just inside your car? Do you get angry when you are in a long line? Do you get upset when a stranger says something rude to you? In other words, do...
Reduce Stress by Living on Purpose
We often go from thing to thing, moment to moment, without considering how it all fits into the big picture. We are too busy to put any thought into how we are living our lives and instead, just focus on getting more and more done. I believe living on purpose is what...
Schedule Your Worry
What are you worried about now? Are there particular thoughts that tend to creep into your mind that cause you stress? I've spoken to both men and women in all kinds of occupations and at all income levels who have excessive worry in common. In fact, if you are...
You Are Probably Not a Good Listener
I have been a personal and professional coach for years, but nobody has ever asked for help to improve their listening skills. Why? Because it seems like it should be easy. Good listening is a toddler-level skill, right? Wrong. Good listening is at the core of every...
Reduce Stress by Defining Boundaries
Would you lie for a coworker? Would you miss your child’s soccer game if the boss asked you to stay late? What would you do if a client yelled at you? Is it acceptable for people to curse around you? Would you do business with someone who is having an affair? These...
Reduce Stress by Reducing Your Stuff
You know you should. You know you have too much that you don’t wear or use. You know that if you get rid of some, you will feel peace. You are too busy to be bogged down with all of this. Simplify and feel better. Since you are busy, you probably don’t have a full day...
Reduce Stress by Learning to Say ‘No’
Saying no does not make you a bad person. It doesn’t mean you aren’t a team player. It just means you are protective of your time. Not to be too morbid, but you will never get time back again. This moment, this hour, this day will be over no matter how you use your...
How to Break One Anxiety-Causing Habit
Yes, you are good enough. This blog does not give you permission for negative self-talk. But you do need to take a look at yourself. Would your friends describe you as “always late?” Do you have the label of procrastinator? Both used to describe me. Both were true and...
Communicating Through Conflict in the Church
We’re starting today with an object lesson adjusted from the self-worth cowboy on YouTube. Take out the nearest piece of currency you have—maybe it’s a dollar or maybe a nice Benjamin Franklin. Either way, I want you to wad it up. Now, how much is this bill worth? Is...
Are You a False Positive?
If someone walks up and hits you, whose fault is it that you are in pain? It is the other person’s fault, obviously. But I hear so often that no one else has control of your feelings and that it is your choice to let someone else bother you. That’s only true to a...
How to Get What You Want
We’ve all been there. You’re dashing into the store to get a quick hostess gift for a party. Of course you are running late. And of course when you get to the checkout counter there is someone with a heaping cart in front of you in line. What do you want at that...
Oh Snap! How to Think Before You Speak
Have you said something hurtful lately? Or committed to something you should have said no to? There is a super simple way to stop those interactions we live to regret—think before you speak. Sounds easy, but like anything worthwhile in life, it doesn’t come easily....